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Boyfriend Sleep Talking, Then Hitting Me Whilst Asleep

by Emma Ponting
(England)

It started off as my Boyfriend just saying random things in his sleep, nothing more. Then one night we had a conversation that didn't make too much sense, I soon realised he was sleep talking and started to laugh, he then got really angry with me and turned his back to me.


I stopped and said sorry go on what are you trying to ask me, he asked me do i have a screwdriver in my pocket, which i replied no and he then shouted at me well why didn't you say that in the first place and then again turned his back to me.

I left it at that and went to sleep. A week or so later i woke up to him sitting up over me which he then punched me in my leg, which really did hurt. I asked him why he did it but he just laid down and carried on sleeping. I said to him I'm scared to go back to sleep now but he said nothing. I ended up falling asleep after a bit.

I'm worried though that these acts in his sleep might get worse and he ends up really hurting me or himself. Any ideas on what I should do or why he is doing this?


Kevin: Hey Emma, Check out these articles on sleepwalking and REM Behavior Disorder to see if you can grab some insights as to what your boyfriend is experiencing. Not to freak you out, because what you've experienced so far sounds minor by comparison, but here's also an article on sleep-related violence, for your own awareness.

Warmly,
Kevin


(Please keep in mind that I am a student of sleep science and not a medical doctor. Please take any thoughts I give with my background in mind.)

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Sep 06, 2014
boyfriend punched me while we were asleep NEW
by: Anonymous

My boyfriend punched me while we were asleep and did not remember the next day

Sep 06, 2014
boyfriend punched me while we were asleep NEW
by: Anonymous

My boyfriend punched me while we were asleep and did not remember the next day

Jun 11, 2015
Sleep problem NEW
by: VLo

I feel for both of you. He probably has REM behavioral disorder. I have it too. It's where you talk, laugh, kick, punch, hump, even jump out of bed all in your sleep. It's like sleep walking but the person can usually wake up in the middle of it and even remember it the next day. The difference with this problem is that it has been the prerequisite to problems of the elderly such as dementia and Parkinson's, but that usually doesn't happen unless the man is older and finally getting REM B.D. And the majority of people who get this are older men. It is scary and he needs to get checked out. I used to sleep with weapons close by for safety, but after reading about people who killed or committed suicide with this problem I hid them. Those stories are rare, so don't freak out too much but you both need to be aware. Research it for yourselves.

Jul 29, 2016
Sleep punching NEW
by: Anonymous

It just happened and I'm in a too big of a shock and scared to go back to sleep. Looks like it was no problem for him. But when I rested my head on his chest during my sleep he agresivly pushed me off the held my head in one hand and with the other he punched me in my eyebrow. I started yelling and crying beating him off me but as soon as he woke up he didn't remember anything said sorry and hugged me. I'm to scared to go back to sleep again

Aug 10, 2016
I was kicking my wife NEW
by: Anonymous

I kicked my wife in her abdomen for three time which I was dreaming and kicking a man , she got up and said stop hitting me, I felt so bad I'm sacred to hurt her again when I am sleeping

Nov 08, 2016
My man does this to me 4rth time today. NEW
by: Anonymous

I have just recently found out from his sister and two brothers that he was sexually abused as a lil boy. 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused in the U.S. from ages 6 thru 10. He hits hard and with all his might twice. Once in the chest in the middle of my breast, once in the back, once on the shoulder, and once in the head. I put a body pillow between us which has helped a lot, but this time he reached over the body pillow, I spoke with one of his x's and she said he did it to her all the time, and took the breath out of her while she was sleeping as well. It's a terrifying way to live,. I try and rationalize my staying with him, basically for empathy. But I need to start planning my exit. He is far to emotionally damaged for me to put my existence behind him. He withholds sex for nearly a year now, is extremely critical of me, non supportive and has a porn addiction it' so bad I caught the kitchen on fire yesterday and he still ignored me and anything I was doing. The insignificance is unbelievable.

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