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Good Man By Day....Violent Man While Sleeping...Or Awakened...

by Kim
(Menifee, CA )

My boyfriend is a napper, sleeper etc. He takes a nap pretty much every day. He falls asleep

and within minutes starts talking out loud a gibber jabber talk or he becomes hateful and cusses a lot. He will just say fuck you fuck you fuck you out loud in his sleep...and its like he's angry...

One time I tried to wake him up...he woke up and just punched my face (he wasn't aware I was there)
I ended up with a broken nose and he ended up going to jail because I was bleeding so bad and he wouldn't help me so I had to call an ambulance...he doesn't remember one thing...he was arrested and had to pay $6,000 to a bails bondsman.

My boyfriend is usually a very loving man - and has been a lot lately but just now I just kissed his forehead while sleeping telling him I loved him and he did the kid tongue thing like a kid pluhhhhhhh and goes yeah a little kid and pretty much just sounded like a child...other times he talks but almost lately he's been kind of violent sounding...what causes this behavior?

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Nov 24, 2011
ptsd? NEW
by: Anonymous

I don't know if this is helpful but I had a friend who we couldn't touch when he was napping or sleeping because as a child he had been attacked in his sleep and may have had post traumatic stress disorder. He was loving when awake. But for the talking and swearing, there is a lot of description on this site of sleep disorders that will cause that too. Take care,

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