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He Remembers What He Said, But Doesn't Know Why He Said It...Was It Angry Sleep Talking?

by Lacy
(MN)

So last night my husband came home from a night of throwing bean bags at a bar tournament and he seemed normal. He had a few drinks including a mystery shot for a good game prize, but he wasn't drunk by any means. He re-heated some hotdish I had made earlier and added a scoop of peanut butter to it in which I thought was odd? Then he sat on the couch and told me about his night and the tournament, I asked him why I smelled peanut butter so strongly he then said that he added some to his hotdish similar to like a peanut sauce...I said that's weird because it was a ground beef tater tot hotdish not something you'd typically add peanut butter onto.


Anyway, after a few normal small talk sentences later he fell asleep on the couch. I then watched some TV and after an hour or so decided it was time for bed. After getting ready for bed, I walked out to our living room to try to get him to come to bed as well. It was then that he opened his eyes and said loudly to me "I have another game to play" I looked at him and explained no you're at home and it's time for bed you're tired and confused...then again he got even louder and said "my team has to play against you."

I was dumbfounded and figured he was just sleep talking which he's done a bit before but not to this extreme. So I just kept trying to convince him that he was home and I was his wife trying to get him to go to bed. So after we did this back and forth he got super angry sat up and yelled at me and said "I know what I am talking about you are just not understanding what I am telling you...I know what I am saying...My team have to play one more game against you!!!"

It was crazy how angry he got. His eyes were on me and glaring with anger and he was shaking. He scared our dogs so bad all three that were next to him came running to my side shaking (they are chihuahuas) So I gave up cause he was angry and loud enough to startle me and I had to cover my ears. Basically told him off and went to bed freaked out.

This had never happened before and it was scary. I didn't know what he was going to do...get violent, who knows. He is the most loving, caring, man this was truly unlike his nature. So then I get a text message from him apologizing telling me "I'm sorry I don't know why I said that to you...it doesn't make sense, I know what I said but have no idea why I said it." So he came to bed and we talked about it briefly.

This morning again he said he remembered it but it was like someone else had control of his thoughts and words. I get the sleep talking thing cause he's done that a couple of times, but doesn't remember it. This incident he remembers...so is it sleep talking??? Should I be worried??? I don't know what to think. He works a garbage route and wakes up at 3am to start the day gets done around noon and usually takes a nap this week tho he didn't get his naps in, so my best guess is he was sleep deprived. I don't know what to think. Any other ideas? Also should I be further concerned?

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