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How RBD Ruined My Relationship

I have had RBD for a few years but I thought everyone had these episodes so I never payed attention to it. It wasn't until after I started sleeping at my girlfriends at night that she asked why I kick and toss and move so much.


She was really frustrated that she could not sleep a full night without being woken up. I just said I usually wake up from dreams acting them out and she was shocked at this. So was I, I thought it was normal. Ended up my RBD got worse and I was punching and kicking at least once a week. She was getting bruises and afraid I might really hurt her.

I tried to sleep on the far edge of the bed but that didn't help all the way, one night I woke up from her screaming, I guess I punched her right in the face and knocked a tooth out. That's when she kicked me out and never slept in the same bed again. I can't blame her, but I wish there was a better way to avoid these types of scenarios.

Ii started sleeping at home again and at least once a week I'll kick or punch the wall or fly off the bed and hit the night stand. I never thought much of it but now that I have been learning about it I'm hoping I can do something and be able to spend more time with my girlfriend without her worrying about being physically hurt at night.

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Jan 09, 2020
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by: Anonymous

Everybody seems to tell the same stories but no one has mentioned anything that would/will help. Other than my wife sleeping in different room...
Due to a business I do have a lot of stress but hope that this will end with selling the business causing the stress.
Perhaps this will be the cure????

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