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I Am Upsetting My Wife By Sleep Cheating and I Can Not Remember It

by Alex

For the last year and a half every single morning my wife tells me I was having a sex dream last night and was talking to another woman. Sometimes I am using full body motions like I am actually having sex and other nights I am just aroused but I am almost always speaking to someone else about how my relationship is over like I am reassuring someone.

I haven't remembered a single dream like this and I can't figure out what is happening. I know this isn't really what you guys had in mind when asking about sleep talking but at this point I'm looking for any insight possible.

Why would I be talking about this? I love my wife and have no plans of being unfaithful or leaving her nor am I looking to convince anyone that I want to end my marriage. Like I said before any insight would be greatly appreciated thank you.

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Feb 22, 2024
When innocent and there’s nothing you can do ? NEW
by: Anonymous

I’m asleep alone in my bed after argument with my girlfriend. She has said that now it’s been twice since I was having sex in my sleep with another woman. On this last occasion after hearing me talking she has asked me what is going on ?? I’ve replied by saying don’t be jealous and instead joins us in bed . On my daughter’s life I’ve had no recollection of that dream and I love my girlfriend very much and it kills me to argue of my innocence. I need some help or something because I don’t want to loose her because I love her very much and I feel this constant distrust and accusation can possibly do some damage to our relationship and worse still even end it. What do I do ??

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