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I Can't Get No Sleep... Because Boyfriend's Snoring and Body Movements

by ANON
(London)

I love my boyfriend very much. Every night he snores, regardless of which side of the bed he sleeps on, with or without pillow(s), no matter if lying on his side, his back, or his front.


Coping with this, I wear earplugs every night and use a white noise machine, and he lets me go to bed first to fall asleep, before coming to bed himself. More recently, he has been having weird body movements, varying from toes twitching, to stroking his own arms, raising his legs in a hammer like movements, and kicking backwards, resulting in me having very broken sleep, and the odd bruise!

Just lately, his sleep disturbance has been more frequent, I have been getting out of bed to grab a few hours of sleep, before he wakes up looking for me and comes and takes me back to bed. This is having a really bad emotional knock-on effect with my boyfriend, he thinks I get out of the bed because I can't bear to be in bed with him, and is emotionally taking it very badly, to the extent of serious arguments about our relationship finishing because he does not want to be made to feel that he is unwanted or indifferent. He says me getting out of the bed and sleeping elsewhere (leaving him alone in bed) is really hurting him. I am losing the will to live. Please somebody advise....

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Aug 15, 2015
It's Just Practical
by: Kevin

Thank you for sharing your story. Communication is probably very key here. If you can gently reassure him that you really care for him, but just need to get good sleep yourself to be a good girlfriend to him, and his body movements and snoring get in the way of that. He should hopefully understand that, and not be self-conscious about why you are going elsewhere to sleep during the night; after all it's just practical. If he doesn't, realize that that is an issue on his part, and try to help him with that so you don't have to sacrifice your sleep or sanity. Best wishes!

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