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I Can't Sleep At Sleepovers! Help!

by Tara
(Thailand)

Ever since I went to one of my friend's house from that day on I couldn't sleep at all, I had to call my dad to pick me up. Now at each sleepover I worry and panic, then that's when it gets worse. I will start to cry and wake my friends parents up, to call my dad so I can get brought home.


I have no idea what the problem is! And it only gets worse, I try SOOOO many techniques but none work. Even when my friends come to my house i can't sleep!

And when I went to Australia with my mom I cried but I did eventually go to sleep. Now I have to sleep with my parents and I'm really worried about my class trip for 4 nights! Please help me, I don't know what to do!

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Nov 26, 2015
 me too NEW
by: Anonymous

I know that I don't have any help but I feel the same exact way! I thought that I was the only person with this problem but I guess not... One time I was at a sleepover party and I couldn't sleep so I called my dad crying he came to the house and none of the doors could open! It was like I was trapped inside... I finally found a way out. The next morining they were all looking for me, they thought I was kidnapped!! I was so embarassed.... Anyways, I want you to know that you aren't alone. I always am scared because I am the only one awake. But there are people out there who are still awake on the other side of the world. I know it is really hard, but next time you feel that way, think I am not alone, somebody else out there feels the same way as me... I hope this helped! Good luck!
Mar 19, 2016
 Me to!! NEW
by: Anonymous

I'm at a sleep over right now and can't sleep!! I'm in the bathroom writing this because they say the light from my phone wakes them up 🙄 I need help to!
Nov 05, 2016
 same, but its okay. NEW
by: Anonymous

i used to have the same problem. well, i still kind of do. for me its that i miss my parents and home. i suggest bringing something from home and sleeping near some one that you trust and feel comfortable around. for me its my bff and bf.hope this helps.
Aug 17, 2017
 Same NEW
by: Anonymous

Same! I am at a sleepover and it is 5 in the morning. Haven't slept a wink, so tired :,(
Oct 09, 2017
 same! NEW
by: just a person

I have the exact same thing. I also start crying as well but eventually I fall asleep. What I think you should do is think that you are not alone in the world. Maybe it is too hot in the room open the windows maybe too cold so close em (if they are open) you just gotta think about the good stuff that will happen the next day ☺ hope this helped
Oct 21, 2017
 Same NEW
by: Anonymous

That happens to me too
Right now
Jan 01, 2018
 Me too NEW
by: Anonymous

I know exactly how you feel. A couple years ago at a sleepover I called my mom to come pick me up because everyone else fell asleep and it was like 4 in the morning and I was freaking out. That happened for 3 or 4 more horrible sleepovers. Then the next one, my mom said that if I am not asleep by 2 in the morning then she would get me. Well I fell asleep at 2 and then I woke up at 5 again!! I was stuck. I couldn’t call my mom and I couldn’t fall asleep. Since then, I have been traumatized and never went to a sleepover again. I know this isn’t help but if someone can help me that would be great. It is mortifying that I am 14 and can’t fall asleep at a sleepover.
Jan 13, 2018
 RIGHT NOW NEW
by: Anonymous

I Tried HYPNOSIS but I can't turn the volume up. Down stairs and to hot. just am a night owl. But not like this. I have no book and my friend is asleep, try, before they go to sleep, tell some sort of stories.
Apr 22, 2018
 Sleepover NEW
by: 13 year old girl

I am at a sleepover with my friend, and I am thirteen, I know that this might sound childish but I miss my mum and my bed and even my little twerp of a brother. I can't sleep and it's 3:30 am!!!! I am just nervous and scared
Jun 23, 2018
 Help NEW
by: Anonymous

Ok so I haven’t been to very many sleepovers and when I do I normally fall asleep like at home. but I am at one right now I can’t sleep at all and I’m scared my friend is gonna wake up. I think that I might just try and stay up all night since it is already 2 and my friend normally wakes up really early but idk. I fell asleep earlier but then I woke up to go to the bathroom ever since then I’ve been awake. I don’t want to say anything though because my dad would not be happy if he had to pick me up because I practically begged him to let me stay the night.
Jun 30, 2018
 Me too NEW
by: Anonymous

I’m here rn, at a sleep over, all the people r asleep and I’m still awake, it’s so annoying, I’m just so tired and I wanna go to sleep😭
Jul 06, 2018
 Same NEW
by: Anonymous

I have to go to a sleep over in 2 days and I soooooooo nervous I keep trying to think of something to tell my friend so I don’t have to go like telling her I have to go somewhere or something and I can never falll asleep and I just want to be able to because I want to have fun at sleepovers but just can’t
Oct 05, 2018
 Same story as y’all NEW
by: Anonymous

I’m at a sleepover, and my friend is already asleep. I just wanna fall asleep! Only problem ( warning: highly embarrassing) I’m at my own house! Help! I’m such a wimp an I know it...
:(
Oct 25, 2018
 freaking out ! !! NEW
by: nervous natalie

I have to goto a sleepover in two days, and I am super scared. Even worse, it is at a hotel, and my mum is going to be the supervising parent. I have already
Told her that I don't like sleepovers , but she just went ahead and invited everyone without asking ne. I am really scared that I won't be able to sleep, and I am twelve years old. I go to my parents when I can't sleep, and I am afraid that that will happen. I would like to let all of you know that you are not alone. Try reading a book , and just take a deep breath . Everything will be fine if you don't sleep for one night. Just remember to bring your phone and a book, and headache medicine just in case. I am very comforted to know that I am not the only twelve year old who is afraid to go to a sleepover. I hope this helped .
Oct 26, 2018
 Please help!!! NEW
by: Anonymous

I am really nervous because I am going to a sleepover tonight, and it is at a hotel .It will be my first one,. Even worse my mum is the supervising parent, and I always go to her when I can't sleep. I do have some melatonin tablets, but I do not know if they will work . I have to get over this!
Ps.... you are not alone
Oct 27, 2018
 I hate it NEW
by: Anonymous

I’m actually at a sleepover right now. It’s actually so embarrassing. I can’t fall asleep no matter what I do . I even just lie and stare at the walls or ceiling until I will fall asleep but i just don’t and I’m so tired so why can’t I ? The worst thing is my friend falls asleep so quickly I can hear her sleeping and I keep yawning because I’m soo tired but just can’t sleep I don’t know what it is :(
Dec 29, 2018
 I can go asleeppp
by: 14 year ok day girl

I’m staying in a holiday home and I can’t go asleep even though it’s my holiday home and they’re staying over my mind won’t focus and I have the urge to go on a really long run for some reason I have so much energy. I go asleep at 3am on a normal night and it’s taking its toll on me
Jan 06, 2019
 :((( NEW
by: sss

I can’t fall asleep! It’s 2:25 am and I have to wake up at 6:00 am still. I’m screwed and I’m literally crying.
Mar 24, 2019
 SAME FAM! NEW
by: Brianna

Laying on the floor at 5am at my best friends house trying to sleep (I was on the couch but got to hot)and I am 16 and never have been good at sleeping away from home. I slept for about an hour (from 1am-2am) and have been up ever since! Please help me sleep 😖
Jun 02, 2019
 Terrible Sleep over NEW
by: 13 year old boy

Same thing happens to me, even when I sleep at a relatives house. One time I slept at my older brother's house and I just couldn't sleep. I may have a sleeping disorder like Insomnia or DSPD.
I'm really hot and sweaty just laying here under the cover but I'm pretty sure that i know why. I know that it's childish because I'm 13 and a boy. But I have an extreme fear of the dark, even though there are people sleeping around me and there is a little bit of light. Everytime I close my eyes I just imagine something creeping up from behind me. I flinch at every sound in the dark. And Imagine the things in the darkness. It's a nightmare. Probably doesn't help that I just watched a scary movie at the time though lol. Anyways I didn't sleep at all that night, even at other sleep overs it never happens. I am a night owl so I normally stay awake, All night, and sleep in the day. That day I stayed there lying with my eyes closed for hours trying to sleep. From 12:00 to 7:00. After a while my nephew woke up and we started watching movies lol. Still didn't sleep though.
Jun 02, 2019
 g NEW
by: Anonymous

oof
Jul 24, 2019
 A little help NEW
by: A 13 year old girl

I’m at a sleepover now writing this just to give some tips to those of you that can’t fall asleep at a sleepover. Currently my friend is asleep but I’m not lol it’s 12:14 am which isn’t late but she likes to fall asleep early. My first tip to you is that you shouldn’t freak out if it’s 4am and your still not asleep bc it just makes it worse. When I was younger and I had sleepovers I would freak out and cry but now I just stay calm and it actually helps me sleep! Also, most people sleep with a tv on, so if your friend has it on, when she falls asleep you can easily just take the remote and turn it off/ turn the volume down. Also if you tend to get hungry when the other person falls asleep, pack a small snack in your sleepover bag so if you don’t feel comfortable asking for food you have your own. I hope these tips helped :)
Jul 30, 2019
 :( NEW
by: Anonymous

I am at a sleepover now and can’t get to sleep it is 12:34 am and I am 13 please help. I am usually fine with sleepovers
Oct 11, 2020
 I also do this
by: Anonymous

When I sleep over my friends house I have to have my sister with me I'm not sure why though, I'm 13 and I haven't had my first sleepover alone yet and I can never go on any school trips where you have to sleep because I can't I have no idea why if anyone has answers for this I would appreciate it.
Oct 24, 2021
 I agree! NEW
by: Anonymous

I'm like 11 and I'm at a sleepover and can't sleep. I have major anxiety when asking for help because I know it will burden them if I wake her up while she's asleep. :( The main problem is that it's very awkward sleeping in just one bed and I'm a fraud to ask to just lay on the floor since that's what I did for my other sleepovers or I had a bed to myself. Note to myself sleepovers are fun but I might not want any in the future. My sleep schedule is already only around 7 hours or less and it's just sad to be honest. I'm not really looking for any comfort but I just wanted to vent I guess. I'll have to take a big nap when I get home from the sleepover, or I might just call my dad, but it's so scary doing that because like- seriously they might hate me right? Anyway, thank you for reading,
Jan 19, 2022
 Can't Sleep NEW
by: TOO SCARED!

I am 9 and I still can't sleep at my friend's house or even when my friend comes to my house! I really wish I could find a solution because I really want to do a sleepover with all my friends and go to sleep-away camp. I am still practicing but hopefully I get better and better every sleepover! Good Luck to all of you! :)
Jan 15, 2023
 Help NEW
by: Anonymous

I’m having a similar issue when I move an inch my friends wake up and I’m just not tired it’s now 2:48 in the morning and I’m 13. I’m not sure what it is but I’m the last one to sleep but other times I’m fine. If anyone can tell me the problem that would help a lot!
Apr 01, 2023
 Same same same NEW
by: Federica

I am 19 and i have had sleeping anxiety for sleepovers since I can remember. It’s 5:14 rn am I am still not asleep which freaks me out. Idk if anyone shares this but I can’t fall asleep also cause I’m afraid to wake my friend up while I move and fall asleep. It feels so sad that once again I can’t fall asleep with my friend but at this point I don’t even know what to do ughh. Remember you are not alone and to stay calm cause you can always sleep the next day and 1 sleepless night it’s not gonna kill you!!
Jun 11, 2023
 Same
by: Anonymous

I have also recently started having serious sleep problems and am way too scared to open up to some people about it. I literally cannot fall asleep at sleepovers without crawling in bed with my mom or dad. I cannot do that right now because I am at my friends house. It is actually really annoying and frustrating because it started happening out of the blue. I have never struggled at sleepovers and have always been fine but now I just get so anxious to the point where i start crying and fear that I will never sleep again. I haven’t found any helpful tips and no matter what i do I just cannot fall asleep. It’s 4 am and my friend has been asleep since 1, and she snores which also keeps me up. I have a volleyball tournament coming up soon which i am petrified for because I am not gonna be able to sleep. It’s in florida for 5 nights and last out of state trip I went with them I also barely slept. I am not gonna be with my mom or anyone in my family and I am really scared about it. I don’t even want to go and I don’t think I can go.
Jun 16, 2023
 Same :) NEW
by: Anonymous

Happens when I go to sleepovers too… I have to call my parents to pick me up. For me it’s more that I get uncomfortable with the people there because at night my friends get a little "loopy" (for lack of a better word) For some reason I hate staying up late and whenever they’re talking and think I can’t hear them it gets very awkward. What I did one of those nights is asked to sleep in the host’s bedroom, and luckily they were willing. That way I wasn’t bothered by their chattering and could sleep in peace. Don’t know why but it’s just the atmosphere of sleepovers that makes me anxious…
Feb 10, 2024
 tips, come get your tips people! NEW
by: 11 year old girl

I am 11 years old and can never fall asleep at sleepovers! thankfully this usually happens when I'm at my house. when I'm at a friends house I usually just think about how happy my parents will be with me, how fun the next morning will be, how happy and proud you will be for sticking out the night, and then I go to the bathroom take a melatonin (if needed) and lay there until I fall asleep (the key is to think about something fun that is coming up) I think about my bday party and how fun it will be! hope you guys benefit from my tips! thx for reading:)

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