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I'm A Very Mean Sleep Talker

by Joni
(Greenville)

I am a 19 year old female and my awesome boyfriend has to hear some pretty mean stuff as I sleep. Me and my boyfriend often fall asleep on the phone with each other. Well sadly for him sometimes I fall asleep but it doesn't seem like I asleep, in fact I seem very much awake.


The very first time he heard me sleep talking went HORRIBLY. Out of nowhere I told my boyfriend that he meant nothing to me and that no matter what he said or did I could never love him (I love this man VERY much) and that my heart longed for another man (I don't care for or want any other man).

He flipped, he is calm person and kind of a shy guy and never rises his voice at me. After hearing what I said he got loud and angry. He asked why I would say such mean things. He even almost cried. I was still asleep and I replied "I hate you, don't try to stop me from breaking up with you, why would you even want to date someone when they think you are a worthless person?" He then got really mad and hurt.

I woke up to him very displeased. I couldn't understand why he was talking to me so angrily and I ended up getting mad towards him. He told me I had no right to be mad at him and that he had every right to be mad at me. I had no clue why he would say something like that and started to cry. Then he asked "do you really want to break up?" I started crying more and asked "you wanna break up, WHY?" Then he said I told him I wanted to break up and I never loved him. I busted into more tears and yelled "NO I DIDN'T, YOU'RE CRAZY" He replied "YES YOU DID, YOU'RE THE ONE WHO IS CRAZY"

I cried even more and told him if he's breaking up with me then he should just do it and stop saying all these weird things. He told me he never wanted to break up. He then told me everything I said to him. Our conversation well I was asleep went on for 1 hour. We finally figured out that I was asleep during the time I was being very mean. All I remember is waking up to Stanley (my BF) very upset. I remember us arguing about which one was crazy, I remember crying A LOT. I remember everything that happened after I really woke up.

This happened 4 more times since the first time and we have handled it a lot better. If you have a story like mine I'd like to hear reasons as to why this happens or how I can stop it from happening again.

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