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Is What I Say While Sleep Talking Real Or A Dream?

by Juan Carlos Montero
(Monterrey, Mexico)

I am a sleep-talker. I have just discovered that this problem is named "somniloquy". When i´m asleep I say things that offends my wife because I got rude and I hurt her with things I don´t remember and I don't believe when she tells me that I said. I got embarrased and shamed when she tells me the things I've said to her. It is problematic and I don´t know what to do.

But, the things I say are real or dreams? I tell my wife that I would never say those things to her but she says that If I have them in mind they are real and I mean them but I don't say them. So, are they real or only dreams?

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Aug 22, 2011
Is it real talk or dream talk?
by: Hawkmoon

Answering in one sentence, your words towards your wife are real. :o! However, there is a catch: in our dreams, mind makes suitable ground to deal with our feelings. But in order to facilitate our feelings, it usually makes a substitution of persons. So for instance, if you have been treated rude by your colleague at work, in your dreams your wife can take the role of your colleague, and you end up shouting at her the words that are actually adressed to your colleague. It only shows that you and your wife are very connected and that your brain feels emotional bond to your wife because brain uses her as a substitute for other persons. The things you dare not say to other persons, you end up telling to your wife in your dreams. It could be possible to reduce those trash talking occurences if maybe you would talk more with your wife about problems while awake. (ofcourse, if she would be willing to listen to you :))

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