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Loud And Graphic Sex Sleep-Talking In His Sleep

The first thing I noticed is that my boyfriend would wake up naked and have no recollection of it. I laughed it off thinking it was funny, and playfully called him a sleep stripper. That happened a couple times, which starting making me wonder what was going on after a while.

Then one time he was talking out-loud very crudely like he was either having sex with someone or was wanting to have sex with whoever the someone was. I moved the covers and he had his erection in his hand. I was shocked. I told him about it and he was embarrassed. I usually wake up to this kind of thing; him kissing my arm shoulder to elbow, one time a random, sleep-educed peck to my pubic bone area over the covers, waking up cussing "f*ck f*ck f*ck, sh*t sh*t sh*t," as he sits up calmly and then turns over, and of course the highly graphic and hurtful sex talk—stuff he never says in real life.

But the other day was the worst. I woke to him saying "Mmm I want to F her, mm mmm mmmmmmmmmm!" a couple times in a row, then "I'm going to c*m 384956,0488-miles a minute..." I woke him up at that point very shocked and irritated and told him to quit having sex with people in his sleep.

We talked about it the next day because I was concerned he has some sexual issues or perversions in his subconscious. He was very embarrassed and apologetic and was open about his masturbation habits. He said he does it once a day, which I thought was a lot (we don't live together), and that he didn't think he had any weird/abnormal perversions. He was molested when he was very young though, so this may be related somehow. And he's told me things early in our relationship about his regular porn habits and some things I thought were disturbing like really being into anal in porn, which has haunted my brain ever since.

All I know is I don't like to hear this stuff come out of his mouth when he's sleeping. It's disturbing and I don't want to be subjected to it. He's very sweet and kind but he has some dark stuff lingering in that head.

From my searching online it doesn't look like there's much that can be done, and I can't find many accounts of it online either. Most searches pull up people actually engaging in real sex while sleep and not knowing it. I'd like to get to the bottom of why this happens and some kind of resolution so it can stop.

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Aug 12, 2015
Sleep sex and perversions
by: Anonymous

This exact same thing is happening to my partner. I do not trust him and he lies all the time. He has a recent history of drug abuse and it and alcoholism runs in the family. I have no idea if he had been molested as a child but I do know he was around a mother with lots of sexual partners growing up, had to live with other family for a bit and had other very traumatic things happen to him throughout his life. I am concerned he is cheating on me because everything going on in our lives suggests that he is. He used to scream out sexual phrases and it stopped for a while but now has happened again the last 2 nights. Last night he was humping the air as if someone was on top of him yelling "fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck" over and over again. He also moans and makes other disturbing noises in his sleep.

Oct 21, 2015
My wife has sexual fantasies while she sleeps about her ex from 20 years ago
by: Anonymous

My Wife & I have been married for 9 years. In February of this year we found out she was pregnant with twin girls, I was very excited and then Her sexual sleep talk began. Almost 8 months ago my wife starting talking in her sleep about her ex-boyfriend, saying his name, what she wanted to do with him and where she wants him to put "it". While fantasizing She speaks in a whispering voice. I have heard the same name(s) of previous partners and what she wants to do with them or should I say, what she wants them to do to her. it is disturbing, explicit and vulgar. I can only describe my nights as listening/watching my wife in a porn movie with other men. I have confronted her about these sex dreams many times but my wife denies saying anything, deinies dreaming of anyone in a sexual manner & says that I'm the one who needs help because she isn't hearing or seeing any of this..Duh, cause she is the one doing and saying everything. I guess I must be hallucinating every night we go to bed at the same time?!?!. I love my wife so much that I have sought help from my doctor, taking blood tests, having a MRI of my brain, I'm in therapy, I started going to sleep before Her everynight & began taking a sleeping pill just to make sure I was knocked out. After 7 months of torment I am done with my wife saying its me...I have seen her talking(mouth moving), I have seen her hips grinding in a sexual way have been tormented with the explicit language & sexual talk. Oh, she also degrades me when she is talking to her fantasy partner, awesome.... Did I mention she lied to me about watching porn.. Yeah, I have 3 beautiful daughters and feel like we are going to be a statistic... Thank you for reading, it's late, I'm tired and this all may be confusing to anyone reading but I feel better. Signed- hurt, sad & disappointed in how this is ruining my marriage/family.

Jan 21, 2017
by: Anonymous

My bf dreams to much i tell him im right here it's grose to see and hear. He lies etc. Yet still does it knoin im hete. He makes moan sounds and jerks body around. His penis gets hard and outa blue hell jump up like a mad man. The second he fully awakes hes gotta pee so bad

Feb 27, 2017
Husband talking sex in sleep
by: Anonymous

Omg... My husband does this all the time! He has always been good to me, great sex life! He has secrets, we all do, not like this type! I'm loosing sleep and my mind! When I wake him he screams at me saying I am a crazy bitch....! Next day he acts like it never happened.

Mar 26, 2017
Don't fret, enjoy it
by: Anonymous

My husband is a sleep water and sex-we. He started when he developed sleep apnea, then all kinds of weird stuff started to happen. He periodically eats in his sleep, he giggles, whimpers, you name it. He doesn't get up and start stripping, but sometimes he has tried to have sex with me while he's ina dream, personally I absolutely love it. I mean, one time he was fornicating with I don't know who in his dream, so I hopped on top and didn't waste the erection, lol. He woke up to a huge orgasm. So I know that sounds horrible, but quite frankly he doesn't remember most of what he dreams and I don't blame him. He can't control his dreams, I would love to know I have an incredible dream sex life actually. But alas I sleep like a rock. Anyway, your boyfriend sounds like fun on wheels and you should take advantage of it, not turn him away, anal is amazing if you do it right and slowly, so don't toss that out either. Sharing anal with the man I have loved for 14 years has made us closer actually. He sounds like a nice kid, he's just rambunctious at nights I say you play along with his escapades at night! How fun. Anal sex and porn and masturbation once a day is not "dark" it's just what sex looks like in the internet era, if I could masturbate all day, I would. But I have no time, so enjoy all the sexcapades while you're still young and have lots of time. He's a keeper if you ask me!

Jun 27, 2017
My husband ask for oral sex while sleep. NEW
by: Anonymous

Have you found out more information about this? I seem to can't find anything online as well. My husband is a very sweet, quiet guy, however, he sleep talks asking for "head"'s so annoying. The things he says in his sleep, he doesn't have the guts to say I When awake. That's my frustrations. When I ask him about it, he doesn't recall any of it which makes me more frustrated.

Jun 27, 2017
My husband ask for oral sex while sleep. NEW
by: Anonymous

Have you found out more information about this? I seem to can't find anything online as well. My husband is a very sweet, quiet guy, however, he sleep talks asking for "head"'s so annoying. The things he says in his sleep, he doesn't have the guts to say I When awake. That's my frustrations. When I ask him about it, he doesn't recall any of it which makes me more frustrated.

Jul 17, 2017
Wet dream or what? NEW
by: Anonymous

Yeah ditto here
My bf cam jerks anf shakes in his sleep n sounds like a moan or convulsion idek i feel like its weird. Like what is be having a wet dream????

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