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My 12-Year-Old Girl Can't Fall Asleep, Nothing Seems To Work

by Robyne
(Canada )

My 12-year-old daughter has extreme trouble falling asleep. We have tried melatonin, establishing a bedtime routine, no TV, iPad, or reading close to bedtime, etc.

After trying to fall asleep for an hour, she ends up getting mad and upset, which turns into arguments with me or her dad. After the argument, she falls asleep. She always says she is so tired and wants to go to sleep.

If she starts in our bed (without us) she often falls asleep right away. We are at our wits' end!! What else can we do?

It also happens if we travel anywhere - the first night is the worst. Sometimes it gets better but usually it doesn't. Sometimes we will give her a Gravol to get her to sleep. We are all tired and grumpy in the morning due to this.

I'm not sure how much more we can take. We have been to our family doctor as well. He said to keep using the melatonin and to make her room for sleeping only.

She had cancer when she was 7 and 8 years old but has been cancer free since. This sleeping issue has been going on for over a year now but it seems worse lately.

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Sep 18, 2016
cant go to sleep alone NEW
by: eddie

same problem 13 year old son cant go to sleep alone ends up in a fight, mother has to sleep with him,is there any answers to this,at wits end.

Sep 26, 2016
14 year old can't fall asleep NEW
by: Lisa

I have the exact same situation. She is anxious all afternoon about falling asleep at night. This has been going on for years. But it's increasingly getting worse. She takes melatonin.
Robyn, from Canada, did you get successful help?
I'd like to read some successful stories with these comments.

Sep 26, 2016
No real news NEW
by: Robyne (Canada)

My daughter is now 13 & she takes melatonin nightly. It works most nights. Things have gotten better the past few months but we still have about 5 nights a month where she can't go to sleep. Being a bit older now she usually handles it better but we still argue at least 2 of the nights it happens.

Sep 29, 2016
10 year old daughter's lack of sleep stresses family NEW
by: Anonymous

Our daughter has never been a good sleeper. But start of school and new routines causes her anxiety and none of us has slept more than a couple of hours in a row as a result since school started. We are all exhausted and grumpy. I have raised this with the doctor for years and have been told "kids grow out of it". But do the families survive??
She is active - gymnastics, and biking, plays a flute and does well in school. She appears to function well but we cannot. She is not on any medication. Maybe should be? We have a routine, bath, reading, bed. It's worse if she has a bad dream (terror) and then cannot be coaxed back to sleep.
Help!! Suggestions?

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