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My Boyfriend Sleep Talks And Calls Out His EX's Name... :((

by Maya
(Kuala Lumpur)

My boyfriend sleep talks!! It’s been more than a month.. I dunno what to do??! Please give me some advice, good advice….

He has the same dream almost every night, calling the same name (his EX’s) and other words.. But every time I talk to him about it, he just goes angry, and he thinks I might be crazy….

When he says he didn't have any dream, or didn't remember saying someone else’s name, I believe him, as it's his unconscious mode, but I really don’t know what to do or what to say to him anymore, to make him believe me!…

I dunno, should I worry or not? But I’m just upset right now! :((

Do you think he might still be in love with her or not over her yet?? He told me the opposite thing tho..

I'd appreciate if anyone could give me some wise words here..

Thank You

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Oct 24, 2014
Maybe Record The Sleep Talking?
by: Kevin

Hi Maya, Thanks for sharing your story. Just to show him that you are being honest, have you thought about recording his sleep talking incidents? Maybe with a phone or simple audio recorder? Then you could show it to him nicely, emphasizing like you said that you know it's only his unconscious or dream mind talking, but at least hopefully you guys can have a conversation about it then without him being angry and ending the dialogue.

All the best. Feel free to update your story in the comments section below with any additional thoughts.

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