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Sleep Talking Is Ruining My Relationship

by Anca
(Coral Springs, Florida)

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I go to a school that requires me to wake up at 3 in the morning everyday so I usually take a nap around 3:00 p.m and ask my boyfriend to wake me up.

He did tell me that sometimes i curse him out whenever he tries to wake me up but this time was different. I went to sleep, and as usual I asked him to wake me up in about 30 minutes. I woke up several hours later with angry messages from my bf. I did not understand what was going on.

Later on I found out that I cursed him out, screamed at him, and said horrible mean things to him. What is really weird is that I do not remember a thing. Usually when I do sleep talk, I remember a little bit but this time it was really horrible. Should I be concerned?

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Mar 26, 2013
by: Kim

This is exactly the same as what happened to me today. He tried to wake me up and I was horrid to him, fully arguing with him in my sleep, he was so mad at me and found out what I'd done.
Hope everything is ok now, has it happened since?

Oct 26, 2014
its the same for me everyday NEW
by: william hartley

Is there any cure or way to prevent this my poor wife puts up with this everyday and I'm tired of being a but to her everyday I just want this to stop

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