Sleep Talking, Waking Up And Still Talking Before I Realise What I Am Doing

by Carla
(South Africa)

Hello :)

Well I have a very close relationship with my boyfriend and we can really talk about anything. In the last few months I find myself waking up several times a night, talking to him. But we are still in school so he is definitely not with me. The thing is, I wake up and realise that I am talking, then I still carry on talking and then I get angry at him because he is not replying and find myself glaring at the wall, then I realise that he is not there. My mom says that we are probably thinking about each other subconsciously, but it can get very annoying, since I never get enough sleep anymore. I never remember what I was talking to him about only a few words like "okay" "yes" "no" "I also think so" "not sure will find out".

Just before I was about to tell my boyfriend about this and he said that he wakes up a few times a night while reaching for me. He says he 'sees me' and then when he wants to touch me I disappear. He will text me in the morning and tell me what happened, and that same night I would've been 'talking to him'. We find it quite interesting but we would really like to know why this happens and why it happens to both of us :)

Thank you

P.S. I have never been on such an interesting site. I read nearly all the sleep walking and talking articles. It was very informative and I really enjoyed it =)

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Kevin: Hey Carla. I'm really glad you enjoyed reading through the site :) It's quite an interesting experience you write about here. I certainly can't tell you how you and your boyfriend managed to reach out and talk to each other on the same nights. Maybe it's a good sign for your relationship though ;)

In terms of waking up and continuing to talk without realizing your boyfriend wasn't there, that could be partly due to a phenomenon called sleep inertia, which basically just refers to those brief moments of confusion you feel just after waking up. I haven't heard anything really before about sleep talking continuing on into wakefulness.

So I can't offer too much specific insight, but I thought sleep inertia was worth mentioning here. Anyone else have any thoughts?

Warmly,
Kevin

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