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The Tortuous Sounds Of Questionable Somniloquy

by Mosey
(Canada)

It's 10:30 pm 2015 and he has started his repeated whisperings of a petname. This can go on for a time, half an hour or so, and perhaps once, twice or several times a night.


The whispering of the name is sometimes incorporated in his exhaling of breath while other times it is repeated very clearly.

He refuses to acknowledge this and says it is in my imagination. I have suggested he talk about the person so that it may free his subconscious but he refuses, as I've mentioned, to accept he talks in his sleep.

This has been going on for years and it is affecting our relationship as I loose sleep and am developing a deep distrust of him. He is a retired professional, 71 years of age and in apparent good health. A sleep doctor has already told me there is nothing to do about it and just plug my ears. The doctor didn't seem to grasp the severity of this problem.

My question is, could it be a mental problem. I believe I should leave this relationship as he is becoming more distant with me because of it. Your thoughts please as I am a senior citizen and wish to leave this world being happy rather than driven crazy by this somniloquy of his.

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Oct 12, 2015
Same problem NEW
by: Anonymous

My husband is repeating female work colleges names over and over in his exhaling breath in two syllables most of the night. Like you I am losing sleep,and wonder if I should stay in this marriage, but I am frightened to leave.

Oct 12, 2015
Same problem NEW
by: Anonymous

Like you my husband keeps repeating female work colleges names over and over on his exhaling breath in two syllables. We have often had rows over his friendships with other woman, one of the woman he constantly talks about is very friendly with him, is this coming out in his dreams. I can't take much more.

Sep 15, 2016
talking while he asleep NEW
by: Anonymous

My Husband started sleep talking about a year in a half ago. When he exhale; I hear him call a female name. He claims he doesn't know a female with that name. He also snores and he repeat the same name. I Have woke up at night and he is sitting up on the side of the bed. Again stating this female name. As well as saying He love her not his wife. He says hurtful things such as I don't want her I want you again stating the woman name . He chant at times and say I hate her meaning his wife This has been very painful. He also goes inside the bathroom and say I love you to this woman. Personally I think it's an affair. We are talking about Divorce. HE UP SET BECAUSE I was RECORDED him. Tere so much more to this

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