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Why Do My Dreams Never Come True?

by Drew
(Clarksville TN)

Why is it that everything I think or dream of or envision me doing never comes true its the opposite of it like for example im 17 and a senior i was going to play football this year i went to the summer work outs and everything i made the team and during the summer i would always see myself playing real good in the games being a star and well basicly just playing in it but on the night of our first game which was the jamboree my coach came to me and told me i was inelligable because i missed too many days last year and they cut my credits short so i didnt pass 5 out of my 6 classes.

Another example is when for the first time i got a call back from a job i had applied to i went up there for an interview and after that they said they are going to give me a call back so i started dreaming and envisioning me working there and my friends seeing me and i had money but i never got a call back or nothing and i still jobless because every time i would apply for a job i would do the same thing invision myself working there and i would never get the job.

And this didnt just start happening to me ever since i was little i would invision me doing things and when it actual comes down to it its something diffrent i never know why i googled it but i never got a answer just other peoples questions being answered.

Heres another example: i was dating this girl and i would dream about her being faithful and everthing because all my past relationships i got cheated on but come to find out she was cheating on me too im not that ugly looking or fat. so why does this happen was it because i drempt about her being faithful or was she bad from the start and i didnt just dream of her being faithful it was all my girl friends well most of them an they all turned out the same way by cheating or they would break up with me for no reason.



and RIGHT NOW FOR SOME REASON I AM INVISIONING THIS GETTING READ BY SOME ONE AND ITS THE BIG TALK OR SOMETHING BUT I KNOW ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN NOW THAT I INVISIONED IT BECAUSE EVERYTHING I INVISION OR DREAM ABOUT NEVER COMES TRUE AND IM WRITING I CAPS SO THIS PART COULD BE SEEN WHICH ITS NOT SO IM BASICLY DOING IT FOR NO REASON.

But back to my original question why do evertime i think of something or invision something good for me it never happens or turns out the wrong way!!?? answers please but doubt it..



Kevin: Hi Drew, thanks for writing in. While some people do believe that dreams have the potential to be predictive in nature, these theories are for the most part speculative and not grounded in science. What you dream does not guarantee anything in your future will come to pass. Ultimately, if you want something to happen you have to make it happen man. Use your dreams as motivation, but do not rely on them as guarantees.

Best wishes to you,
Kevin

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Nov 14, 2010
I know exactly how you feel
by: Dylan

I was just now dreaming of seeing my girlfrien this weekend and she just sent me a message saying we cant go out anymore...

This is horable that assoon as you visulise sumfing gud its gone, cn never happen that way, i saw myself reading a reply bt it nw probably wont happen

Jul 17, 2011
Dreams and Real Life
by: Anonymous

Dreams are good, but you have to work hard to be successful. Get a goal for your life and do everything to obtain it. If it never comes around then turn to something else that you are interested in. Never give up on life, and yes, there are hard things that come, but enjoy what is real and important like your family, and real friends. Make life a happy journay that only comes once.

Nov 26, 2011
Why do dreams never come true?
by: Anonymous

I think what the original poster meant by dreaming was not something that ocurred during his sleep but more along the lines of cosmic ordering, law of attraction...visualization. He makes reference to visualizing things and they do not materialize. I have been doing it for years and most of the things I really wanted, despite all my hard work never happened for me either. Life is one big disappointment after another. Once in awhile we get what we want...and sometimes when we do not in hindsight it was for the best.

I have been asking for certain things for over 20 years and nothing....I have done everything to make them happen..but in this life we need some luck...a break, a chance, and for some of us it does not happen and we go through life failing at everything we ever do.

Apr 19, 2012
i know how you feel
by: Anonymous

I know how you feel, i also googled many times, but couldnt find it, thank you for your post, i am too, since i was a kid always always wanted something so bad, thought of it, not on purpose to manifest but daydreamed and never came true, it did actually but totally something opposite, i am a believer, and i have knowledge of everything is out there, from law of attraction to tulpas,and guardian angels,etc, and i am a positive, optimistic person all my life, and some people might say at first that, because i think of it thats why, they say because i think it wont come true thats why, but not true, i always believed nomatter what i have worked and cleared all my blockages as they say in LOA, but i didnt have those thought before, and i have made an experiments with things that can never go wrong, lol
and it did, so funny, so the question is how can i possibly get something if anything i want goes opposite?!

May 05, 2012
I too feel that way I'm an immigrant!!!!
by: Anonymous

I wasn't born here but I was raised here since I was very small, I always dreamed of being big getting, older having a great job I too feel that way you know all those stuff one dreams as a kid, but as I turn 18 reality started to kick in. I had no license I have no social security so all dreams got flushed down the drain as I see more and more racism my dreams become nightmares and the nightmares into reality. I now have a son I work I don't get money from government and tried fixing my status but seems no hope all I can do is maintain living day by day praying I don't get deported, I don't drive I just work to eat and my country well I only know what I hear on the news and what I hear from people. My dreams turn into nightmares, nightmares that do come true.....

Mar 27, 2013
Feeling the same. NEW
by: Anonymous

Drew that's so True. I too encounter disappointment after disappointment .....once in a while I hit one or two success; Nowadays, I do it mechanically. I try, try ...try many times, end up with a tiny tine of what I want. I have realized. I will never get what I dream of even though it's my reach. I work hard ..work like a dog but I know I will not get what I want. I guess that's life.

May 18, 2013
Same in my case.... NEW
by: Anonymous

I dream a lot... to be precise.. i imagine a lot about my future, but the end of the day all i get is disappointment. There are times when i cried all night and unable to share it with anyone. I tried hard to stop myself from imagining things big and dreaming abt them.But, atlast my human instincts would never allow and i end up being dissapointed.

Sep 13, 2013
my dreams never come true!!! duh... NEW
by: Anonymous

hey,
It's the same with me. there is lot of my life left to live but this habit of mine envisioning everything the way i want it to happen and end up seing no results of smthing or totally opposite sucks now.i think i gotta live with it.

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